How Discovering Gifts During Puberty Boosts Self-Esteem During Menstruation

In the Red Diamond Sisters Club story, Priestess Uma presents the Secrets of Moon Time Magic, which encompasses eight mystical changes that occur in a girl’s life as she begins having their periods.

One secret is, “Your gifts are the keys to your joyful future.”

What are “gifts?”

Your gifts are the special abilities, talents, and skills you were born with. Your gifts are divinely planted in your soul. They are an expression of your soul. You know it's a gift when you do something exceptionally well, better than most others, and it comes easily to you, and you feel joyful to do it. Each of us possess many, many, many divine gifts that are waiting to be developed and expressed.

Through the ages, wise women have said our purpose as a human being is to use our gifts and to share them with the world. This is the key to a joyful and fulfilling life.

So, you may wonder, “what do our gifts have to do with girls preparing for menstruation?”

It’s more pertinent than you might think.

Puberty is an ideal time to help a girl discover her gifts.  

Puberty and menarche, (or the first occurrence of menstruation), is a physiological event that triggers emotional, psychological and social changes. At this time, girls become more conscious of their body and body image. Emotionally, they experience a mixture of feelings, from low to high, often simultaneously, leaving them feeling confused. Socially, they may feel awkward and self-conscious, while also trying to fit in with peers. It is during this multidimensional transformation that a child’s self-confidence and self-esteem are challenged.    

But there is a bright side; puberty is a time of exploration and self-discovery, when children begin to ask themselves, “Who am I?”

This is an ideal time to help a girl discover her gifts. 

A child who is aware of her talents and abilities is less concerned by what others think or what her body looks like. She is more likely to focus on the things that bring her happiness. She’s apt to spend time developing the skills that bring her fulfillment, while disregarding other influences (which may be negative.) Girls - or anyone for that matter - who are aware of their gifts feel more confident and capable of pursuing their dreams and creating a life they desire.

Helping a girl discover her gifts at this point in her development gives her a positive start to all of life. She may discover a gift that directs her life, such as the gift of painting that guides her to be an artist. It gives children purpose, which gives life meaning and fulfillment.

Guide your daughter’s Gift Discovery journey.  

Often, children may discover their gifts on their own while in school and other environments. But you can help accelerate your daughter’s self-discovery, right in your living room, in a Gift Discovery exercise. In this fun and easy activity, you may help your child recognize her strong, natural abilities and guide her to appreciate them as her super-powers.  Here's how:

• Invite her to sit down and play a game of “Gift Discovery” with you.

  
  

• Give her and yourself a couple of sheets of blank paper. You may also consider giving her a personal notebook or journal book that she may use for this exercise and for her continued journaling or inner exploration.

  
  

• Explain what gifts are:

  • Everyone is born with abilities, talents, and strengths - we refer to them as ‘gifts.’ These are your superpowers, unique to you.

  • As you continue to develop and grow, your gifts begin to appear and blossom!

  • Discovering the gifts inside of you will help you understand just how amazing and powerful you are.

  • Your gifts may develop into a life-long pursuit or passion.

  • Your gifts can help you fulfill your dreams!

    
    

• Now, each of you will think about your gifts and write them all down. Help her, if she is stuck. With some children, their strengths are obvious. But even the children who haven’t yet exhibited their genius have many skills and talents. Point out her pretty hair, to her ability to run fast, to her talent at setting a beautiful dinner table. The more gifts she can write down, the better she will feel about herself.   Dig into your own gifts, too!  

  
  

• Afterward, share your lists. As she reads her, affirm with a "yes!", or applause. Share your list. You may be surprised how good it feels to have your child applaud your gifts!  

Gift Discovery is a Game Changer

Your child’s inventory of her many gifts will boost her self-esteem and self-image. She will begin to see how important she is to the world. Reading her Gift List on a regular basis will remind her of how amazing she is.

As a pubescent girl moves into menarche and into a regular cycle, she is armed with her treasure trove of gifts, ready to navigate the ups and downs of her physical, emotional and social challenges. She feels stronger and more powerful. She becomes more appreciative of her body and whole self, and even her periods.

Eventually, menstruation itself may be considered a gift – the representation of her feminine abilities and source of her power.

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So, Priestess Uma is onto something. Guiding girls who are entering “womanhood” to discover their gifts and the magic that they possess, sets them off onto a life of confidence, hope and empowerment. And full-grown women can also benefit from the Gift Discovery to remind us of our own magnificence and importance on this planet.

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